A recent article in the Kennebec Journal has same-sex marriage opponents up in arms, because the Secretary of State phrased the question simply and plainly:
“Do you want to allow same-sex couples to marry?”
They had wanted the more convoluted question that had appeared on petitions earlier in the year, which phrased the issue in terms of “religious freedom” and clergy being forced to perform same-sex marriages.
The problem is, this is blatant misdirection. In none of the states that currently allow same-sex marriage is any clergy being forced to perform a marriage ceremony that violates their beliefs or the beliefs of their church. And this isn’t going to happen, even if same-sex marriage becomes legal throughout the country.
Currently, no Catholic priest is forced to perform a marriage ceremony between two people who have previously married and divorced. Not a one. This is because it would violate his faith and the tenets of the Catholic church. Similarly, a Jewish Rabbi isn’t forced to marry people who aren’t Jewish. Religious freedom is already enshrined in our system of law and same-sex marriage poses no threat to it.
On the other hand, any religious group that demands same-sex marriage be illegal in a particular state is a very real threat to religious freedom. No group or groups of religious people, even if they are in the majority, should have the right to impose their belief system onto people who don’t follow their faith. There are other religious groups in Maine (and all over the country) — Wiccan, Unitarian, Episcopal, and others — who do consider same-sex marriage to be in concordance with their religious beliefs.
Yet their religious freedom is curtailed by the Christian groups who continue to oppose making it legal, on the basis that allowing it would somehow “violate” their religious freedom. And in fact, it would not.
It’s a blatant lie.
This post is part of the YAM LGBT 2012 Blogathon.
Calico, by Dorien Grey, may very well be the first gay YA novel I ever read, not counting novels like A Separate Peace, which weren’t actually intended to be gay.
It was published in 2006 by Zumaya Boundless at a time when the very idea of a gay character in a YA novel was scandalous. It came to my attention, in fact, because it was on a list of books people were trying to ban. As I recall, the same people who were throwing fits about this novel were also in a frenzy over the children’s book Jennifer Has Two Daddies (by Dr. Priscilla Galloway and Ana Auml), despite the fact that that had been out for over twenty years. I mention this, because it probably factors in to what I’m going to say later.
In the novel, young Calico Ramsey is hired to escort two 17-year-old siblings, Josh and Sarah, to Bow Ridge to live with their aunt. Along the way, it becomes clear that somebody wants the twins dead and Calico finds himself falling in love with Josh.
Repeating History: the Eye of Ra by Dakota Chase was published a few years later in 2010 by Prizm. It follows the adventures of two teens — Aston and Grant — who are sent back in time by Merlin to retrieve an Egyptian artifact (the Eye of Ra) from King Tutankhamen. They manage to ingratiate themselves to the young king, but they soon realize that they might be in a position to thwart an assassination plot against him. Can they change history and save King Tut? And will doing so cause them to be trapped for the rest of their lives in Ancient Egypt?
Both of these YA novels are excellent and I highly recommend reading them. They also share a loving attention to historical detail. The tone is different, with Calico presenting the reader with a very gritty (and often dangerous) Old West and The Eye of Ra depicting a much lighter-hearted, but still richly detailed, story of two boys trapped in a time and place they’ve only read about in the history books.
I have one criticism of both of the novels, which is why I’ve grouped them together in this blog entry. It just happened that, while I was reading each of these two novels, completely independently, I was struck by the same thought: Where’s the sex?
Now, I’m not insisting that every YA novel should have sex in it, or saying that an author doesn’t have the right to choose whether or not to include sex. Certainly, there are times when sex is appropriate in a novel and times when it is not, and one could argue that the latter is usually the case with YA novels. I also recognize that both authors may have felt that their readers or their publishers may not have tolerated anything more than a chaste kiss or two. Certainly I’ve seen plenty of reviews of YA novels with gay content where readers echo the tedious sentiment, “There’s a little gay romance, but not that bad. You can ignore it and get into the story, if you like.”
But all that aside, what bothers me is when the lack of sex doesn’t feel true to the characters to me. Now, keep in mind that when I was 17, I was shy and hated undressing in front of my classmates in gym. I also went to a fundamentalist church that was extremely disapproving of same-sex…exploration…and as a result, I didn’t even know that I was gay. Seriously. I just thought I was a late bloomer. Yet somehow even I managed to see quite a lot of male nudity and raunchy sexual humor amongst my friends. And when I finally met another gay man (I was nineteen, by then) who was willing, I couldn’t wait more than a few days before “doing it.”
Of course, your mileage may vary.
But I do find it extremely unrealistic when two teenage boys are alone together and horny, knowing that they’re both interested…yet they refuse to do anything. In Calico, Calico and Josh kiss about midway through the book. Then Calico refuses to kiss for the rest of the novel, until the end, fretting that Josh isn’t legally an adult yet. In The Eye of Ra, Aston and Grant start making out one night in the dunes and suddenly they feel they have to stop, because, as Aston puts it, “It would be bad.” Bad? What would be bad? Both of these feel contrived. In reality, a 17-year-old would probably have been considered adult in the 1800s and two hot-and-bothered teenage boys really need a better reason for putting on the breaks than, “It would be bad.”
Keep in mind that when two boys start groping at each other, the context is vastly different than when a boy starts groping at his girlfriend. They don’t have all that baggage of “Good girls don’t do this!” and “What if she gets pregnant?” and “What if he’s just using me?” to contend with.
There is baggage, certainly, but it’s different. There’s no chance of pregnancy. There’s little sense of having to maintain an image of purity. And even though there is some chance of exposure to HIV and other STDs, if both boys are sexually inexperienced, they’re unlikely to worry too much about that, assuming that neither could have caught anything yet. (Not always true, of course.)
What there is, is fear of being of being labeled a “fag,” and that’s a real fear. The social stigma is enormous, even today, and certainly would have been a major concern in the 1800s. But there’s also a sense of mutual transgression: it’s more difficult (though not impossible) for one to accuse the other without implicating himself. (Whereas a teenage girl might risk losing her reputation, if her boyfriend chooses to boast about having sex with her, while his status with his friends would likely increase.) There is also guilt, of course. But my experience was that my brain tended to shut off at the time, and I didn’t fret about things until afterward, my religious bent notwithstanding. Lastly, there is just plain shyness and anxiety about venturing into sexual maturity.
Again, everybody is different. Some boys may just go for it; others may have too much anxiety about it and may push back. Or perhaps one will be shy, while the other will be more aggressive. All of these are valid options. But the reader shouldn’t be left feeling that the reason the characters aren’t having sex is simply because it’s a YA novel and the publisher forbids it.
Again, both of these novels are terrific and I hope the authors aren’t offended by me using them for examples. It just so happened that they both brought the same thought to mind, while I was reading them. I do recommend them as good YA novels with gay characters.
Part of the YAM LGBT 2012 Blogathon.
To the best of my knowledge, my YA novel Seidman is the only book that describes what it might have been like to grow up in the Viking Age, knowing that you feel a strong attraction to another boy. I’m not boasting — I’m merely commenting on the fact that, after twenty years of researching this time period (mostly focusing on Viking Age Iceland), I’ve never come across a novel that explores this subject. If anyone reading this knows of such a book, please feel free to tell me about it in the comments.
This statement can be said about many historical periods and cultures: with the exception of adult gay romance, I haven’t seen many depictions of LGBT men and women, or LGBT youth, in different historical periods. There are some — Dorien Grey’s Calico; Jere’ M. Fishback’s Josef Jaeger — but not nearly enough.
There are people who make a concerted effort to pretend that the LGBT community sprang whole cloth from the 20th-century, as if we simply didn’t exist before before Stonewall. I’ve angered people on discussion groups about Vikings for suggesting that there may have been gay Vikings. I was told that only “decadent” civilizations, such as ancient Greece, would have allowed homosexuals to exist. The Vikings (more properly called “Norse,” since not all of them were Vikings) would never have permitted such a thing!
Except that they had no choice. The idea that any culture, no matter how homophobic or obsessed with “manliness,” could prevent people from being born gay is utterly ludicrous. It’s true that, until people first began being diagnosed as “homsexual” in the mid 1800s, people didn’t tend to think in terms of being gay or lesbian or bisexual or trans. It was more something that a person did or did not do. A man might feel an attraction to another man, or a woman might prefer to learn swordsmanship and wear men’s clothes. If they acted upon those feelings, they could be big trouble. Both of these things were punishable by death in many cultures throughout history. But keep in mind that behavior that we would consider to be “gay” or gender related was more often viewed as “manly” or “unmanly”; “womanly” or “unwomanly” — not specifically “homosexual.” It was about the role you were expected to play. People played the role society had cast them in and remained discontent, unless they found themselves in a situation where they could act on their desires in secret.
But the fact that it was kept secret doesn’t mean it didn’t exist. GLBT men and women have always been here. We didn’t just miraculously appear. Many people want to believe that. They want to believe that, if we suddenly came into being with the advent of “gay rights,” then taking away “gay rights” will make us go away. But that isn’t the case. We are simply lucky enough to live at a time when it’s less dangerous for us to be open about ourselves than it used to be (though obviously we have a long way to go), and that is due to the hard work and suffering of the GLBT men and women who came before us. They existed and their existence should be celebrated. It’s time for us to reclaim all of those centuries that we’ve been expurgated from.
Part of the YAM Magazine 2012 LGBT Blogathon.